I'm always a little concerned when I find myself with a choice between two things I don't want. Have you been there recently? Sometimes its best to take a breath and step back, at least a short distance, to gain some perspective. Let the ill-wind blow by. See what's left after the squall line passes through.

I have a cat like that. His name is Lee. He's quite the charming fellow. He does not know any other cat who is not his friend. Kind of like the way Will Rogers lived: “A stranger is just a friend I haven't met yet.” Another cat might hiss at Lee, but Lee just looks at him with a kind of expression that says to me "no hablo 'hiss' , wanna be friends!?" He really doesn't speak that language!

Guess what? Lee has alot of friends and no enemies! He walks in a world without looking over his shoulder. Knows who gives the best head rubs and where the best sunny spots are. He's a wise one.

Maybe your example walks on two feet. Some of mine walk on four, too. Its really good to have the chance to see how it all can be different, and that 'push' may not lead to 'shove' as much as a chance to be friends.

Its worth a shot!